If there’s one thing I have learned in my years of dealing with an ever-growing list of mental health challenges, its that so many of us deal with these same challenges to some degree. Some are more quiet about it, not wanting to upset the apple cart more than they have to. Some are very vocal about it, whether its to share struggles, educate and bring awareness or just scream for help without actually saying it out loud.
I’ve done a little of everything. I used to be very open and vocal about my struggles, both on social media and within my close circle of friends. Lately, though, I’ve felt the need to turn to self-reflection more and more as my constant cries for help have started having their toll on my friendships. “What can I do to help you?” has turned into “I’m sorry to hear that,” which has turned into “I don’t know what to tell you, man.”
My own struggles have made others tired, and believe me, I get it. I say all that not to trigger guilt or to place blame, but to note that sometimes you’re so wrapped up in your own struggles that you seem to forget that others are struggling with their own problems as well. Its just hard sometimes to get through your own bubble to be able to see the world outside.
The voices you’re battling with get louder, more insistent and more insidious. They start to take over and suck the energy out of you, leaving you feel like the victim of an emotional Dementor’s kiss, and at that point, you can either give up, give in or give yourself a fighting chance.